Wednesday, 18 January 2017

Choosing a path.

I know where I am going! I know how I am getting there! And I know when I will arrive! But is that where I want to be?

As we head down a path, no matter if we have stumbled upon it or carefully chosen it among other option, we have a trejectory, a direction and focus. As we go down this path we will see other paths, some going in different directions, some parallel, some less traveled and some paved and smooth. For some it is hard to look at these paths, focus on their path is specific and strong, for others it is impossible to not look at these other paths, they are tempting, intriguing!

No matter if we are distracted by the other paths or focused on our existing path, we need to take time to reflect, make sure we are headed to the destination we want. Sometimes we get so focused on the journey, on a path we chose years ago that we forget where we are going, we don't check our supplies and we just keep pushing forward for the sake of pushing forward. No matter how tough or easy the path we continue to walk, run or crawl.

So take a moment and check you destination, make sure you still want what you were headed for, and have what you need to get there. If you do push more, work even harder and drive forward? If not what do you want, how do you get there and what do you need on the path you choose? We all have the power to choose our path, no matter how far we are on our current path we can choose the path that will give us what we need!

Go forward, choose your path and be happy with the fact that you have made that choice!

Motivate, inspire and find your focus!

Tuesday, 17 January 2017

Slow Starts!

Everyday we each have a moment where we feel ourselves starting to slip, starting to get upset, starting to get grouchy! Sometimes we feel it too late and realize we are being a jerk, out just generally grouchy. Sometimes we feel it coming but can't reset out direction. Other days it's just a slow start, a moment we get to make a decision on who we will be today!

How do we make it a slow start? How do we reset before we pass a bad mood on to someone else? I wish I knew!

What I do know is we need to find the energy to fight on, we need to make sure we pass on more positive than negative, we need to do damage control! Some days are one step at a time, many deep breaths, many refocused thoughts. Find a spot in time or a smiling face to focus on and don't let it go. We all have that something that makes us smile, we need to keep that thought in our back pocket, and we need to take a moment now and again to go to that thought! On a world full of noise and full of critisizm it is our role to be the beacon light, and to be the beacon light we need a source for our energy.

So if you are feeling that mood sinking in, feeling that frustration building, go find your focus point. Look around and find that smile! Let someone else's beacon light energize you and lift you up. The let yourself spread that same energy. For the extraverts in the world remember you charge your battery by charging others!

Motivate, inspire and find your focus!

Wednesday, 11 January 2017

Who is the Judge?

"Anything you say can and will be held against you."

"You will be judged by a Jury of your peers!"

"You are innocent until proven guilty!"

Little phrases in life often drift by us, or we feel they must be for someone else. We assume it isn't us, it can't be me or it must be one of "those" people. We judge everyone and have gotten to the point many people constantly feel judged. We don't take the time "to walk a mile in their shoes!" We are so worried what other people think of us that we automatically deflect our feelings of guilt, inadequacy, misunderstanding and shame onto others. We don't look inward to see why we feel that way and we rarely try to understand someone else's situation. For that matter we rarely stand face to face with someone that we are judging. We all want to be the Judge and Jury, but never the executioner.

How have we come to this place? How do we change? How do we better ourselves and those around us?

The funny thing is not much has changed, society has always had these problems! Unfortunately what use to be chatter around a coffee table or  water cooler is now posted everywhere! People don't have to wonder what people are thinking, people post it in one way or another, sometimes it's direct, sometimes it is a back handed complement, sometimes it's an attempt to boost one's own ego that shatters another's.

So let's all slow down, and remember to lend a hand, lend an ear. Take the time to understand someone, to feel for them and be there for them! The best way to boost your ego is to help someone else, to know that you have been a step up instead of a strike against. Understand what your words mean, remember there are people out there, people that feel, that love and that hurt. Take the time to give someone a hug, take a friend for coffee and listen to what they have to say. Pick the phone up and call someone who may need you or miss you. Remember to love and be loved!

Motivate inspire and find your focus!

Friday, 29 July 2016

Don't forget to stretch.

Each day is our own workout. Some days leave you feeling energized and inspired, other days leave you exhausted but satisfied, Some leave you torn apart and questioning how you will keep your head up, and the rest fall anywhere in between.

The thing with life is you don't always get to pick your workout, you may expect a leasurly walk and end up doing a P90x shred! The part that is similar is its not the workout but how you react, how you stretch out and how you get started the next day. If you are left feeling like a bag of pulp, you have to get up the next day, you have to stretch and get moving again, the longer you sit the more you will hurt. You will stop hurting but if you sit too long then you have gained nothing. Sometime you learn just how deep you can dig to make that happen.

When you feel empty, reach out, look for someone to spot you. You just need to know someone has your back, and someone always does! Listen and open your mind, that spot may come from an unexpected place, from a stranger who sees that look on your face and offers a word of kindness, from long lost friends who know your pain or from your loved ones. Just remember to take the hand, to let them take the weight for a moment as you get your grip. Don't listen to the neigh says, they chose not to get up a long time ago and they still hurt and instead of working past it they want everyone to hurt.

Each day is a new workout. Each day is a lesson and a chance for you to grow stronger. Remember to not only build your strength but to take care of your heart. Any good athlete will tell you the importance of cardio! Now get up, stretch out and start running! You will get where you are going!

Motivate, inspire and find your focus!

Sunday, 3 July 2016

Find a Hero!

Constantly in today's world I hear people say how terrible their parents were, how they will raise their kids better. I see people talk about all the mistakes of their upbringing, the follies, the challenges, how they didn't have this or didn't have that. They idolize people they have never met and choose hero's for their powers not for their morals. People slip away into fantasy worlds and cannot figure out why they have not found utopia.

I was once asked who my hero was, I stared blankly and said I don't have one. Years later I asked a group of students who their hero was, but I premised it with, "a hero is not perfect but someone who inspires you." The one girl told me of her mother, how amazing she was, how strong she was, now minutes earlier this 15 year old girl told me how she worked part time after school to help support her mom and sister. With this she still saw her mom as strong, as inspirational and her hero. It left me floored, all these kids in their early 20's, who never worked a day in their life and had their parents paying for university complained how flawed their parents were, but this girl, who at 15 was working to help put food on the table saw her mom as a hero!

The realization is a hero is not perfect, a hero is someone who over comes, who gives you values so you can see right from wrong and point you in the right direction. A hero is flawed but they know it, and they give everything they have to make your life better, to give you more then they had.... But a hero doesn't complain, they fight, they push through and move past history and use it as a lesson instead of an anchor. Within this, if you want to know how to break a hero, just let them know you don't appreciate them, if you want to build a hero, let them see that their values are what drives you forward.

Go out and find a hero, but don't look to far! Soon after this go and become a hero, be that person others look up to. Once you do find the strength to be a hero, you will find other hero's all around you, you will see inspiration in so many people it will floor you. We all have a little hero in us!

Motivate, inspire and find your focus.

Thursday, 23 June 2016

Who will you be?

As I stood in the checkout line at the grocery store I read through the titles on the magazine's in front of me. I see two vast differences, many focus on potential dirty little secrets of celebreties, others talk about greatness or ways to spruce things up in your life or your house. I can't help but think these magazine's really represent who we choose to be in our life.

Each day we have a choice, we can focus and worry about others little secrets or we choose to improve our lives everyday. The reality is we all have little secrets, little faults, little challenges, but if that is all we focus on we become little people. Of we choose to improve, to be better then we were the day before we will grow. We can build up ourselves, and become an inspiration. Show our strength to others so they focus on our qualities and our faults can fade away.

Each day we can stand up and be better, worry about how we are impacting others, how we are improving our lives and the lives of others. We need to avoid worrying if others have more faults or more strengths. We all outshine others in one way and others outshine us in others. As we all focus on the good and move away from jealousy we grow as people and as humans.

Motivate, inspire and find your focus!

Thursday, 11 February 2016

Positive change

They only cause damage! Take your drama somewhere else! I don't need you in my life.

So often we push people away in a negative way. We assume because we don't connect that they must be a bad person. They must be a negative person. Why do we do this, why is it a negative perspective we take when the piece doesn't fit. How do we change our perspective to a positive twist. We must find a way to realize that just because someone doesn't fit with us, just because we bring out the bad in each other does not make them or us a bad person.

Think of relationships like magnets. Do you remember playing with magnets as a kid, you would be building a train or creating a design and suddenly as you place the one magnet it pushes the rest away, it is a polar opposite. We don't get angry at that piece, we move it around see if it will fit, try a different angle and if it still doesn't fit we set it aside and maybe try it later. Why can't we treat relationships the same way. When it doesn't fit, when we push each other away, step away, don't get angry, don't discount this person or yourself, just walk away and see if you learned anything.

Take time in life to realize that almost everyone has a positive side. We are all human and sometimes we don't fit together, but we fit with someone, we make someone happy and a better person. Stop pushing people away and assuming they are poisonous because you didn't fit. This attitude only adds poison to your life. Any time you reflect an attitude toward someone else you take a bit of that on yourself. So look at them, see the positive but know you have to walk away. Be happy, be positive and remember that we all have value.

Motivate, inspire and find your focus.