Wednesday, 17 May 2017

Split Values.

How do you truly reflect when that means seeing your faults, admitting them to yourself and then... and then the world. When the world has thought you there is no room for error. 2nd place is the first loser, and then the world thought you, don't hurt anyone feelings, make sure to always be positive.

My generation has grown up in a simple time with old rules, that transitioned into a complex, over messaged, confusing pile of emotions. We all want what is best for those around us, to the point that many of us forget about ourselves. People are so sensitive that instead of asking us if we want to talk they suggest we should be medicated to help with our depression. There is a pill for everything and a new gadget to make it easier.

So how do we find ourselves, how do we become amazing while balancing the expectations of the generations before us with the generations after us. How do we accept that we will hurt some people and sometimes in doing this lift others up. How do we reduce the filter without taking it right off. I wish there was  simple answer, but that's the thing, nothing is simple anymore... until we find ourselves that is. Once we choose who we will be, once we accept that some people aren't going to like what we have to say, we can move forward. We can challenge our norms and find out who we are.

As we strive forward building our own future we can create a balance between traditional values and sensitivity​ for everyone. We will be the change, we have the power within us we just have to stand up and speak. Stand up and take what is ours. 

Inspire, motivate and find your focus.

Friday, 10 March 2017

Love

One of the greatest risks in life is love. Such a simple emotion but the most complex of all. Many have lost all they have based on love. But the most successful have love or no love at all.... And we  all have one thing we love in  life..... Knowing this will define your life.

You choose to love someone or something. You love a dream and nothing can get in your way! It would seem at this that to gain success you are  then crippled by loving someone, instead of something. On the surface this is true.... But it is so much more then that.

Firstly success is measured on many levels, for many, true enduring love is success in itself, for some uninterrupted wealth equals success, so how do you get both?

Communication!!!!

Find someone you love, and within part of this love should be a singular goal. If this goal is in-sync with your love then everything you do will be about your love. Each step, each thought will be for your partner. (Now I use the term partner very strategically, a partner is someone you trust and vest, decisions are not made without their input, choices are a compromise to benefit all concerned) as you step forward it is for the benefit of both. You are so focused on the success of all that you have no choice but to move forward. You fight for everything. You do not focus for one but for two, and so does your partner and you trust that unconditionally.

As both parties choose a focus sacrifices will be made, life will fluctuate and change but the end goal will appear on a single axis.  As a single unit you will adjust and accept risk. Life will have its ups and it will have its downs but as partners you will understand and accept the moves made by your loved one.

Now... In saying this accept that communication is key accept that knowing the final goal is the most important part. As you move forward if you have not agreed upon the final result then each step will be questioned, fights will spark..... But.... if communication is clear.... then each step will make sense, limited hesitation will exist. We will move forward knowing that each step is part of the larger battle... Within.... Reason...

One must leave any personal feelings out of this... This comes to this first feeling, that feeling is love and is the most risky emotion...

For some, I leave this short... For those that know, or will soon understand I leave this now as I know no other way to explain true trust, true love... For those that know can truly let go and believe that what they do is for both, is trusted and will create benefit for both partners! If you believe this, take the risk, move forward,fight! Take the risk! I believe you will only gain... As I know now, I can only gain with my partner.... Worst case you loose 50℅.... In that case the am sorry as it will feel like more... For the rest... Like me... Enjoy, fight and win!!! Knowing if nothing else you have loved! And know love like no other!!!

Inspire, motivate and find your focus!

Sunday, 26 February 2017

A moment

A moment to gather my thoughts, yet they are still scattered. A moment to try and reflect on all my recent considerations, yet they escape me. My soul is at piece, I smile I laugh, yet my mind remains so unfocused. How do I bring it together?

Like so many, pulled in so many directions that it is easy to forget what way is forward. Driving on, one step at a time, but some days I swear I have done this before. Without focus we are lost, without focus we can walk in a circle for days!

I take a moment to reflect, realizing that is my challenge, I focus on the past, and not the future. Our past though complete can leave us with so many questions, but is best if it just leaves us with lessons. History is the one thing we have no control of, so to dwell is to be lost. So I turn now, I look forward, knowing forward is whatever direction I choose. One step focus on tomorrow, focus on growing focus on living in the present.

Motivate, inspire and find your focus!

Wednesday, 18 January 2017

Choosing a path.

I know where I am going! I know how I am getting there! And I know when I will arrive! But is that where I want to be?

As we head down a path, no matter if we have stumbled upon it or carefully chosen it among other option, we have a trejectory, a direction and focus. As we go down this path we will see other paths, some going in different directions, some parallel, some less traveled and some paved and smooth. For some it is hard to look at these paths, focus on their path is specific and strong, for others it is impossible to not look at these other paths, they are tempting, intriguing!

No matter if we are distracted by the other paths or focused on our existing path, we need to take time to reflect, make sure we are headed to the destination we want. Sometimes we get so focused on the journey, on a path we chose years ago that we forget where we are going, we don't check our supplies and we just keep pushing forward for the sake of pushing forward. No matter how tough or easy the path we continue to walk, run or crawl.

So take a moment and check you destination, make sure you still want what you were headed for, and have what you need to get there. If you do push more, work even harder and drive forward? If not what do you want, how do you get there and what do you need on the path you choose? We all have the power to choose our path, no matter how far we are on our current path we can choose the path that will give us what we need!

Go forward, choose your path and be happy with the fact that you have made that choice!

Motivate, inspire and find your focus!

Tuesday, 17 January 2017

Slow Starts!

Everyday we each have a moment where we feel ourselves starting to slip, starting to get upset, starting to get grouchy! Sometimes we feel it too late and realize we are being a jerk, out just generally grouchy. Sometimes we feel it coming but can't reset out direction. Other days it's just a slow start, a moment we get to make a decision on who we will be today!

How do we make it a slow start? How do we reset before we pass a bad mood on to someone else? I wish I knew!

What I do know is we need to find the energy to fight on, we need to make sure we pass on more positive than negative, we need to do damage control! Some days are one step at a time, many deep breaths, many refocused thoughts. Find a spot in time or a smiling face to focus on and don't let it go. We all have that something that makes us smile, we need to keep that thought in our back pocket, and we need to take a moment now and again to go to that thought! On a world full of noise and full of critisizm it is our role to be the beacon light, and to be the beacon light we need a source for our energy.

So if you are feeling that mood sinking in, feeling that frustration building, go find your focus point. Look around and find that smile! Let someone else's beacon light energize you and lift you up. The let yourself spread that same energy. For the extraverts in the world remember you charge your battery by charging others!

Motivate, inspire and find your focus!

Wednesday, 11 January 2017

Who is the Judge?

"Anything you say can and will be held against you."

"You will be judged by a Jury of your peers!"

"You are innocent until proven guilty!"

Little phrases in life often drift by us, or we feel they must be for someone else. We assume it isn't us, it can't be me or it must be one of "those" people. We judge everyone and have gotten to the point many people constantly feel judged. We don't take the time "to walk a mile in their shoes!" We are so worried what other people think of us that we automatically deflect our feelings of guilt, inadequacy, misunderstanding and shame onto others. We don't look inward to see why we feel that way and we rarely try to understand someone else's situation. For that matter we rarely stand face to face with someone that we are judging. We all want to be the Judge and Jury, but never the executioner.

How have we come to this place? How do we change? How do we better ourselves and those around us?

The funny thing is not much has changed, society has always had these problems! Unfortunately what use to be chatter around a coffee table or  water cooler is now posted everywhere! People don't have to wonder what people are thinking, people post it in one way or another, sometimes it's direct, sometimes it is a back handed complement, sometimes it's an attempt to boost one's own ego that shatters another's.

So let's all slow down, and remember to lend a hand, lend an ear. Take the time to understand someone, to feel for them and be there for them! The best way to boost your ego is to help someone else, to know that you have been a step up instead of a strike against. Understand what your words mean, remember there are people out there, people that feel, that love and that hurt. Take the time to give someone a hug, take a friend for coffee and listen to what they have to say. Pick the phone up and call someone who may need you or miss you. Remember to love and be loved!

Motivate inspire and find your focus!

Friday, 29 July 2016

Don't forget to stretch.

Each day is our own workout. Some days leave you feeling energized and inspired, other days leave you exhausted but satisfied, Some leave you torn apart and questioning how you will keep your head up, and the rest fall anywhere in between.

The thing with life is you don't always get to pick your workout, you may expect a leasurly walk and end up doing a P90x shred! The part that is similar is its not the workout but how you react, how you stretch out and how you get started the next day. If you are left feeling like a bag of pulp, you have to get up the next day, you have to stretch and get moving again, the longer you sit the more you will hurt. You will stop hurting but if you sit too long then you have gained nothing. Sometime you learn just how deep you can dig to make that happen.

When you feel empty, reach out, look for someone to spot you. You just need to know someone has your back, and someone always does! Listen and open your mind, that spot may come from an unexpected place, from a stranger who sees that look on your face and offers a word of kindness, from long lost friends who know your pain or from your loved ones. Just remember to take the hand, to let them take the weight for a moment as you get your grip. Don't listen to the neigh says, they chose not to get up a long time ago and they still hurt and instead of working past it they want everyone to hurt.

Each day is a new workout. Each day is a lesson and a chance for you to grow stronger. Remember to not only build your strength but to take care of your heart. Any good athlete will tell you the importance of cardio! Now get up, stretch out and start running! You will get where you are going!

Motivate, inspire and find your focus!